Today I had lunch with a beautiful person in my life, someone who is genuine, true to herself and those around her, inspirational, warm and simply delightful to be around, and it made me realise the importance friendship has to stay alive and sane.
When I was younger, I was never a person to have lots of friends and at times was always envious at those who knew dozens of people relatively closely, always out and about with them sharing laughs, stories, drinks and good times in general. My life consisted of a very few who I could divulge my secrets to and it’s taken me many years to realise the value in quality, not quantity.
The friends I have now come from all walks of life and I so incredibly enjoy the company of them, lunching away with wedges or chicken pita breads, cheese and dips, coffees and lemonade. In the past fifteen years, I’ve gotten rid of those people who are high maintenance, complainers and who take others for granted, realising that surrounding myself with individuals who actually care about me and accept me for who I am far outweighs the idiots who gossip and judge.
Some of my closest friends are overseas and it’s through understanding of friendships and the busy-ness of life that we remain as such. We each comprehend life has its ups and downs and sometimes writing an email or a handwritten letter just takes up too much time, but as long as there is effort for contact every now and then, if it works, why complain?
I’m not the sort of person to pick up the phone to talk to my friends. I enjoy face-to-face conversations and a good glass of drink, and my true friends know that. If I’m going to complain about something my husband did, why would I do it on the phone with my husband in the house, for him to hear? Why would I want to share joyous news with a text message when I’m wanting a congratulatory hug and jumping in the air? Of course, in some instances you just can’t see everyone for every piece of news regarding changes in life, so it’s normal to do it the technological way, and it gets me out of the house!
Today’s lunch date friend is so important to me, we share many similar challenges and spiritual attributes and find I am incredibly comfortable around her. Friendships are meant to be effortless and when you find it hard to come up with conversations or you need to think carefully before you speak in a quest not to offend, that’s not friendship.
If you have a good friend who doesn’t judge you, tells you you’re an idiot when you do something stupid, helps you in times of need, and is always there for you, give them a hug and say thanks. Great friends are far and few in between – I am incredibly fortunate to be surrounded by wonderful friends in my life at the moment and I’m only stupid to not catch up with them enough.
Sending virtual hugs to my beautiful ladies and cheers to the women who love me for me.
Friendships are meant to be effortless and when you find it hard to come up with conversations or you need to think carefully before you speak in a quest not to offend, that’s not friendship. This couldn’t be more true!
I can relate to this blog only having a handful of close and true friends thinking others with many friends were lucky but over time I have also come to realise quailty over quantity is extremely important because it doesn’t matter how many friends you think you have its the people who are there in a time of need that really hold importance in your life everyone else are simply acquaintances
That just left a tear in my eye Kate, for it is so true. Real friends know and love you for all that you are- good and bad. I think if you can count these people even on one hand- you are truly blessed! Thank you for sharing your friendship honestly, it allows others to do the same! And thank you for being in our lives x0x0
As A friend from over seas, oh how I share in those wordes. Life gets so wroped up about you, finding yourself sometimes may be near impasible if it wasn’t for those who are near to the heart. Friends are just that; a grounding, and escape, a moment of true expresian of who we are and enjoyment of eachothers company markes for all the pleasures in life. May it be a childhood or a new friend, a siblimg or a parent, spous, or coworker…if they have toped into that comen wave they inrich and help us define our life. After all an idea in your head is just that untill you have someone to shere it with. It is not true- alive till it is shared, defined, given wings.
Thank you being my friends and inriching my life in so many ways.
XoX